Tuesday, April 14, 2009

Grey Gardens

Little Edie and her SideKickImage by nolageek via Flickr

Prone in bed in front of my TV, I call out to Diver in his room, "Good Night!"
From his bed in front of his TV, Diver answers back "Good Night"
It's like Grey Gardens.
We're stuck here, Diver and me. Stuck with each other. I can see us growing old and derelict, the two of us, with the house crumbling around us. Not eccentric, because I don't think the Beales of Grey Gardens were eccentric. If you've seen the Maysles' original documentary on this aunt and cousin of Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis; or the musical by the same name; or the upcoming HBO film with Drew Barrymore and Jessica Lange, you'll see that the Beales were human. Co-dependent as any pair of humans living together doing their best. Each with defects and assets. But no more eccentric than anyone else growing old alone in relative poverty.
I can see that happening to us.
No one will make a musical about it. No one will be happy about it, although Diver probably wouldn't mind.
It's not what I envisioned for my life.

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  1. Maybe you won't inspire a musical, but I bet you could totally score a reality show someday.

  2. Sequestered with our sons - I also wonder how that will pan out.

  3. I had thoughts of this same thing today. My second husband and I are in an 8-year-cycle of on-again-off-again, currently off-again. And it struck me that Movie Boy is my life partner, by necessity yes, but also because we just enjoy each other's company. That doesn't leave much room in my life for the husband, which isn't our biggest problem but certainly doesn't help. Movie Boy will probably live with me for a long time, and while I hope he gets a life of his own I know I would find comfort in just hanging out with him for a long time.

  4. Well, one reviewer called Grey Gardens "a love story."

  5. My sister was a single parent for many years and never imagined she would re-marry. Then, just like that, it happened and this weekend she is celebrating her 2nd anniversary. You never know, I'm just sayin'.