Monday, October 12, 2009

Moving forward

Email to Elmer's IEP Team:
Elmer is going to need considerable help to recover from this month. While his team observed him coping with the chaos at school, at home he has been stimming, depressed, overeating, irritable and moody. While these have not been in large quantities, they are behaviors I haven't seen for years. This is painful, scary, and frankly, heartbreaking and infuriating.
I think we erred by maintaining the status quo for even this month. I wish I had pulled him sooner.
I know we can't go back in time but we must devote whatever resources are needed to reverse this.
Elmer must be nourished so that he is once again the boy who showed up ready to soar on the first day of school: confident, even-tempered, easy-going, charming, curious, optimistic, and a happy leader. That's the boy I sent to school and that's the boy I want back.


  1. Yes. Wept. And holding onto idea that 10 steps forward, 1 step back still leaves him 9 steps forward.

  2. Hugs to both of you. Wish there was something I could do. Having been in your shoes with Rocky in the last few years, watching all his gains slowly fall away, I have often felt hopeless. All we can do is keep the pressure on and keep searching for solutions and keep telling our kids that we know it's so hard and we're doing all we can and we won't give up until we find something that works.

    We won't give up.