Wednesday, May 22, 2013

And now we are 17

When I started this blog early in 2009, my son was 12, and I was a much-younger 50-something.

Who's grown more?  He is now a deep-voiced, manly,  6'4" man; calm, self-possessed, mature, able to function without me.  I, on the other hand, am shorter, fatter, weaker, slightly less-sharp, and more dependent on him.

My work here is pretty much done.  I am well-aware that I am one of the lucky ones: a parent whose ASD child has made a miraculous recovery.  Contrary to what the doctors say, it is *not* because of me.  Yes, he has had good parenting and good interventions, but every parent knows the hard truth that you can do all the right things and still get a bad result.  I credit God, plain and simple.

As he sails off independently, he will no longer be my significant other, rendering the blog purposeless.
If there are other parents out there who would like to caucus, I am happy to share my experience.  Beyond that, know that the age of miracles is not dead.


  1. Indeed, miracles abound. My friend, you have much to be proud of, modesty be damned. (Although I know you're not just being modest.) In any case, Happy Birthday to your strapping son, and Godspeed. I'm so glad our paths have crossed, and I look forward to keeping in touch as the years go by.

  2. Congratulations. I'm so happy that you and your son had managed to pull through this trying ordeal.

    Miracles do happen, and it's good that you understand this. Like gold, just because you don't have it doesn't mean it isn't there.

  3. I would love to talk to you about what steps you took to help your son. I have a step son who came to live with us later in his life, now is 19 and we are just realizing he has Aspergers. Thank you!

    1. Hi Linda. The single best thing we ever did with my son is to send him to Camp Kodiak ( He started there when he was 11 and came home changed. He has gone back every summer since and this year will be a Junior Counselor. I know they have a program for young adults called Club Kodiak. I would encourage you to peruse the web site and if it looks interesting, to call and talk with the director, Dave Stoch.

  4. Believing in miracles is what gets us through each and every day! If we didn't dream, we wouldn't want to go to sleep, sleep equals dreams!
    Miracles equals dreams come true!